Nowadays, there are more and more older single men and women, and our thoughts may still stay at the level of women and boys, but a recent video of the blind date corner in Shenyang Nanhu Park has refreshed our cognition. The current social status quo has changed from "a family of women begging for a hundred families" to "older leftover women don't want bride price and garages, and no one cares", what is the reason for this situation?
The contrast between the past and the present of the blind date corner
We can see in the video that in the blind date corner of Shenyang Nanhu Park, there are more than 10 times more women waiting for a blind date than men.
The information of women in their 30s who used to be proud of being older leftover women is hung in rows and rows in the blind date corner, but there are very few men's information.
Now the women's demands have been reduced to no cars, no houses, no bride price, but no men have shown up.
According to the previous situation, the blind date corner in Shenyang Nanhu Park is from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. every Saturday and Sunday, which can be said to be full of people, and there are countless men and women who go on blind dates, but now the scene is extremely bleak.
In fact, blind date corners like Shenyang Nanhu Park are found in various cities across the country, such as the 1,000-person blind date conference held in Hangzhou some time ago, and there are very few men on the scene.
What is the reason for this? The editor will analyze it with you.
Whose sore spot did the six reasons hit?
Reason 1: Nowadays, society respects urban independent women more, so most of the girls who have just come out of society will develop in this direction.
After a few years of struggle, they are all independent women, with cars, houses, savings, high education and good conditions, while many men have become depressed under the influence of games and bad social trends.
But any man who has a little self-knowledge knows his own conditions, even if he goes to the blind date corner, he may not be able to find a woman who can look at him.
In addition, men themselves have a good nature, so they are even more reluctant to go to the blind date corner to grandstand. And the conditions of women themselves are good.
Compared with the nature of men who have a good face, the nature of women is arrogant, and they obviously have the capital and ability to choose their favorite objects, so of course they have to pull out the short ones in a pile of stalks.
This also leads to one of the reasons why most of the blind date corners in various cities are more women than men.
Reason 2: Men themselves have a good face, if they really go to the blind date corner, participate in the blind date activity, and really meet their favorite object in the event.
If friends and family ask about their girlfriend on a blind date, rather than through their own efforts, there will definitely be people who will laugh at men.
Therefore, most men prefer to stay at home. Unknown social software makes female friends that they are not familiar with, and they are not willing to look for their other half in the blind date corner.
Reason 3: Men are born with a "pure" mentality, and many men compare older leftover women to other people's leftover dishes, not only are they not as young and beautiful as girls in their 20s, but they are not as easy to deceive as them.
Most of the older leftover women are 30~40 years old, and this type of women has been in the society for more than ten years.
Therefore, it has long been commonplace for men to talk sweetly and draw big cakes, and to put it bluntly, it is not easy to coax, but the older leftover women in the blind date corner of Shenyang Nanhu Park.
The requirements have long been lowered to no cars, no houses, no bride price, and there are still no men to go to the scene, because they are all more self-aware.
Most of the men who go there can't afford to marry, and the rich men certainly don't look for their significant other from the blind date corner in the park.
But women are different, no matter how old women are, they have always lived a "princess dream" in their hearts.
Otherwise, why are there so many combinations of "old husbands and young wives"? Why is every girlfriend around Gao Yalin getting smaller and smaller?
Which man doesn't want to find a wife who is as beautiful as a flower, "old cows eat tender grass" is definitely a side word for men worthy of their pride.
Reason 4: In fact, no matter where there are more women than men in the blind date corner, or even no men appear, this situation is inseparable from the social status quo.
Some netizens said, "Chasing girls now is like going to the grave, I have been incense, she is lying there motionless, and she has to eat my tribute, and after eating, she will say to me, you went to the wrong grave." ”
Although the moral of this metaphor is not very good, but the words are not rough, like the fat cat incident that exploded on the Internet some time ago, it must have scared off the vast majority of men.
Whether it is together or chasing girls, men need to devote their energy, financial resources and time to please a woman.
If you are lucky, you can tie the knot, and if you are unlucky, you will be the next fat cat, not to mention the time and energy spent living during this time.
But the money spent is all silver spent in vain, which I have earned little by little, and of course I am not willing to invest in a project that has no results.
If the project is wasted by then, you can have a good mentality, but it's a big deal to start all over again. If you have a bad mentality, you will directly subvert your life values.
Therefore, the current social situation has led to the fact that most men are reluctant to take risks.
Reason 5: Nowadays, society is indeed more hypocritical, science and technology are becoming more and more developed, plastic surgery, beauty, makeup, each single piece is more beneficial to women.
After the first time they met, they were as beautiful as a fairy after putting on makeup, but when they saw no makeup for the first time after they got married, they were frightened and shocked.
There are also women I met on social platforms, and the photos sent by them are sweet and cute, but in reality, it is already good to be mediocre.
What I want to say is that everyone loves beauty, and everyone has the right to pursue beauty. If you are a man and have better conditions, then it doesn't matter if he has higher requirements for women's appearance.
The most terrible thing is that some men who are not good-looking and want to marry a beautiful wife in poor conditions.
Reason 6: Whether it is the blind date corner of Shenyang Nanhu Park, the older leftover women do not want bride price and garage, or the Hangzhou Blind Date Conference of 1,000 people, no men show up.
There will be something similar to "This kind of older leftover women are left over by others, and if you have enough fun with men who can't get married, find an honest person to take over." ”
Isn't this a proper malicious discrimination against women? Could it be that all the older leftover girls are left over from being played with in their eyes?
From the idea of patriarchy in ancient times, to the equality of men and women that has been advocated by society now. Not to mention the big things, after getting married, the trivial things in the life of the two people, doing housework, will always be done by women.
When it comes to family living expenses, men have raised the idea of equality between men and women.
In response to comments similar to the above, older leftover women have had enough fun with other men, and then find an honest person to take over, try to ask which girl is not dedicated and sincere when she is in love?
It's not the girl's fault that she didn't meet someone who really suited her, whether it's life or love, it's all about finding the right answer to your life through trial and error again and again.
To put it mildly, is it only women who play? If there are no men, who do women play with?
Some men don't think that what they do is not visible to others, so they can stand on the moral high ground and blame others.
While commenting on the filthy thoughts of older leftover women, we should take a look at whether we are worthy or not, it is true that some women are irresponsible to themselves, but they should not kill a person at once.
Just like the fat cat incident, because of Tan Zhu's wrong approach, he directly denied all women.
To put it bluntly, this kind of man just doesn't have the ability to judge himself. There are more than 30 people, and they can't even do the most basic respect for others, so it's no wonder they can't find a girlfriend.
Nowadays, women who are still single in their thirties and forties are collectively referred to as older leftover women, and no matter how you hear it, this term feels like a derogatory term.
But single men in their thirties and forties are called bachelors, and those with better conditions are golden bachelors.
No matter what kind of environment they are in, no matter what their own conditions are, everyone should have the right to love and be loved, and no one should be bound by the so-called "social rules" of rules and regulations.
Whether it is a man or a woman, young or old, they should all enjoy the same rights and should enjoy equal social attention.