I don't know if you have noticed that young people nowadays are more and more reluctant to participate in the red and white ceremonies in the village, especially when the family relationship is a little distant, and the young people do not come back at all.
At this time, thinking about the sentence left by the ancestor - "Red things are uninvited, white things are uninvited", everyone may think it is a bit ironic. Nowadays, young people don't even participate in white events, so how can they "care" which family in the village holds the happy event?
Xiao Ke thinks that this statement is not an exaggeration, because the current post-80s and post-90s rarely participate in the red and white ceremonies in the village, most of them are post-60s, post-70s, and even more post-50s and post-60s.
Why is that? Is it because young people don't want to get involved, or is it too much trouble? After carefully analyzing the current situation, Xiao Ke summarized several reasons, let's see if what Xiao Ke said is right.
01. The work is busy, and it is difficult to arrange time freely
"Workers, working souls", this sentence is not a joke, as workers, we have no way to arrange time freely. Especially in unexpected situations, it is difficult to take time off work in a short period of time, which makes it difficult for young people to return home.
Although the wedding event can be scheduled in advance, young people can only take a day or two off from the holiday, so it is likely that it will only appear on the day of the celebration.
As for the sudden death of an old man or elder in the village, it may be difficult for young people to ask for leave, especially if the family relationship is not very close, and young people are even more reluctant to waste this energy.
After all, there is so much social pressure now, and it's good for everyone to take care of themselves.
02. The elders in the family are there, and they don't need to participate by themselves
We mentioned a situation just now, the post-80s and post-90s generations rarely participate in family ceremonies. This is because the elders in the family are there, so the young people feel that they don't have to participate. One is that it is difficult to ask for leave, and the other is that it will not help much when I go back.
Of course, many people still feel involved, they feel that as a member of the village, the village old man has passed away, and it is necessary for them to go back to help.
But for the post-90s and post-00s, it is difficult for them to have this sense of participation, and even feel that as long as the elders are there, everything will be fine.
03. The relationship is not close
In fact, this is also one of the reasons, when an elder in the village dies, if the relationship between the other juniors and the elders is not close, that is, they do not belong to a big family, and the juniors rarely go back.
And now the family rarely tells the young people who are working hard outside the home, because they feel that they can go home to help, and they don't need the young people to go back and forth, so the young people rarely go home.
Message:
In fact, this is one of the major realities faced by the countryside, although our ancestors left us a lot of customs, and there are also rules for red and white things to be present, but many rules have been simplified by modern people.
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