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I am Xiaoyu, I just got married this year, and my husband is an honest and kind man. After the wedding, we started a new life, living in his parents' old house. My mother-in-law, Aunt Wang, is a traditional and strict person, and there are many rules in the family, which makes me feel a lot of pressure. Although I tried to adapt to their lifestyle, there were some things that made me unhappy.
At first, I thought that the relationship with my mother-in-law would gradually improve, but I didn't expect my mother-in-law to make a request that caught me off guard. One night, when our family was sitting at the dining table, my mother-in-law suddenly proposed: "Xiaoyu, I have discussed with your father, you young people should have a plan for spending money now, and you can adopt the AA system in the future, so that the living expenses of both of you can be shared fairly." ”
I didn't know how to answer her words for a moment. I wondered if such a request was too harsh and incomprehensible. After all, according to the traditional concept, the division of financial responsibilities between family members is generally shared, rather than calculated separately.
My husband looked at me and seemed a little overwhelmed, and he said cautiously, "Mom, we are still in the newlywed stage, so it is not appropriate to suddenly change our financial plan, right?"
But the mother-in-law insisted on her point of view, saying, "You have to learn to be independent, and this is for your good." Your dad and I have also been independent since we were young, which is good for your lives. ”
I tried to keep myself calm and nodded in understanding, but I was already thinking about what to do next. Since my mother-in-law insisted on the AA system, I needed to find a way to deal with the situation.
That night, I lay in bed and thought all night. I decided to accept my mother-in-law's offer, but I was going to find a better way to solve the problem. I didn't want to get myself into trouble, so I decided to take the initiative and make a plan.
The next morning, I discussed my thoughts with my husband: "I agree with the AA system, but we have to figure out a more appropriate way to share the household expenses." For example, we could consider selling my bridal house so that we could get a sum of money that we could invest or save for the family. ”
My husband was a little surprised to hear my proposal, but he thought about it seriously for a moment and then nodded in agreement. He believes that this is a viable plan that can provide better security for our future.
Next, we started to prepare for the sale of my dowry house. This house was given to me by my parents as a dowry, and although I cherish this gift, I am willing to make this sacrifice for the sake of the future of the family.
We found an agency and started the process of selling the house. The whole process was not easy, but we persevered. Eventually, we managed to sell the house and got a good price. This fund will be an important guarantee for our future life.
However, when my mother-in-law learned about the sale of our house, she had her own plans. She believes that the money should also be distributed according to the AA system, so that we can both share it. As a result, the contradictions between us resurfaced.
When we got the money for the sale, it got even more complicated. The mother-in-law believes that the money should be distributed according to the AA system and used for the daily expenses of the family. She insisted that it was reasonable to keep the family's finances fair.
One night, when my husband and I were discussing this issue in the living room, my mother-in-law came over and expressed her opinion directly: "Xiaoyu, this money is from selling your house, but you are already married, and this money should belong to your husband and wife." ”
I was a little dissatisfied, but I tried to stay calm and asked, "Mom, since I got this money from selling the dowry house, why should I distribute it to the family?"
The mother-in-law seemed a little surprised, but she still insisted on her position: "Because you are already husband and wife, husband and wife have to share the responsibility." Your living expenses are meant to be shared by two people. ”
The husband persuaded on the side: "Mom, the money from the sale of the house is Xiaoyu's dowry, and she should have the right to decide how to use it." ”
The mother-in-law glanced at her husband dissatisfiedly and said, "You child, you can't always protect her! I just hope that you can plan your life better, and you can't let Xiaoyu bear all the pressure alone." ”
I felt that my mother-in-law's attitude made things more complicated. I tried to explain: "Mom, I agree with the AA system, but this money is a dowry given to me by my parents, and it is better to use it for investment and family savings." ”
The mother-in-law was silent for a while, and then said, "Well, you young people have your own ideas, and I won't interfere anymore." But I want you to be able to plan your finances wisely. ”
I breathed a sigh of relief and thanked my mother-in-law for her understanding. Next, my husband and I began to discuss how to use the funds wisely. We decided to invest part of the funds to increase our income, and the other part to be used as family savings to ensure stability in our future life.
However, although the mother-in-law's attitude has eased somewhat, the family conflict has not been completely eliminated. From time to time, she still expresses her dissatisfaction with the way we live, especially when it comes to finances. We have to deal with these issues more carefully so as not to provoke greater conflict.
Although my husband and I tried to adjust our lifestyles and try to balance the expectations of the family and my mother-in-law, the contradictions remained. This tense family atmosphere makes me feel a lot of pressure, but I believe that as long as we insist on communication and understanding, one day we will be able to find a solution that will make the family more harmonious.
In the days that followed, we continued to work hard to manage our lives while maintaining communication with our mother-in-law. Despite the setbacks at times, I believe that with patience and hard work, we will eventually find a way that will satisfy everyone.
The mother-in-law's intervention in our lives does not completely stop, she always tries to influence our decisions in a subtle way. It made me feel a little uneasy, but I tried to stay calm and try to maintain a good relationship with her.
One night, when my husband and I were discussing our investment plan, my mother-in-law suddenly came over, sat next to us, and interjected: "Xiaoyu, you should be careful with your investment, this market is volatile and not easy to control. ”
I nodded, in understanding, but also trying to show that we were well prepared: "Mom, we've done a lot of research and chosen a relatively stable investment approach. Thank you for your concern. ”
The mother-in-law continued to persuade: "Young people are easy to be impulsive, so they should listen to the opinions of their elders." Your dad and I suffered when we were younger, so I hope you learn from it. ”
Seeing that his mother-in-law was a little stubborn, the husband tried to reassure her: "Mom, we will be cautious about every investment." You can rest assured that we will keep you informed on our progress on a regular basis. ”
The mother-in-law seemed to nod her head in satisfaction, but she still reminded us from time to time to be careful with our investments. We felt a little uncomfortable with her interference, but we understood her concern.
After a few months, we were relieved that our investment was starting to pay off. We use a portion of our proceeds to improve living conditions, while also storing a portion of our funds for the future.
However, my mother-in-law began to pay attention to our expenses, and she raised some questions about the way we spend. One day, she said to me in the living room: "Xiaoyu, you young people must not be too profligate, you must save some money." ”
I patiently responded, "Mom, we're already controlling our spending." The return on investment is also increasing, so that we can better plan our lives. ”
Still dissatisfied, the mother-in-law continued: "I heard that you have recently bought some new furniture, is this kind of consumption necessary?"
I explained, "Mom, we're just trying to make the house a little more comfortable. Our expenses are carefully planned and not overspent. ”
My mother-in-law's attitude made me feel a little unhappy, but I tried to be respectful. Her words made me realize that we need to be more careful about our finances and avoid upsetting my mother-in-law.
In the days that followed, we continued to work on balancing our relationship with our mother-in-law. Although it can be stressful at times, I believe that through patience and communication, we can gradually find a balance and make family relationships more harmonious.
At the same time, we are also starting to focus more on our own lives and strive to create better conditions for the future. My husband and I are planning our goals together, supporting each other and trying to build a happy life for us.
With the constant intervention of my mother-in-law, although we faced some challenges in our lives, my husband and I learned to support each other and stick to our goals. Although my mother-in-law was sometimes unhappy with our way of life, we stuck to our plans and hoped to achieve financial independence through our own efforts.
One night, as our family sat down at the dinner table to eat, my mother-in-law suddenly brought up a topic that surprised us: "Xiaoyu, you should consider having children." You've been married for a while, and children are the future of the family. ”
The husband, who was clearly a little upset about the topic, tried to explain: "Mom, we are still preparing for the future, and now is not the time to have children. ”
The mother-in-law continued unrelentingly: "You young people should not always procrastinate, but hurry up. Children are the bond of the family, and you need to prepare for the future. ”
I felt a little conflicted, but I knew that this topic was sensitive and needed to be handled carefully. I tried to lighten the mood and said, "Mom, we know how important it is to have a baby, but we're not quite ready right now. We need some time to plan for our future. ”
The mother-in-law did not seem satisfied with our answer, but she did not continue arguing, but sighed and said, "Well, you young people decide for yourself." But hopefully you'll make a decision soon. ”
This conversation made us realize that my mother-in-law's expectations of our lives go far beyond the financial aspect. She started to pay attention to our family planning, which made us feel stressed. But we also know that this topic needs to be handled with caution so as not to cause greater contradictions.
Over the next few days, my husband and I began to have serious discussions about our future plans. We decided not to rush to have children for a while and instead continue to focus on our careers and investments. We hope that through steady development, we will ensure a more stable life in the future.
At the same time, we have also strengthened communication with our mother-in-law. We tried to make her aware of our plans and sought her understanding. Although this is not an easy task, we believe that through honest dialogue, we can gradually gain her support.
Although the mother-in-law sometimes expressed doubts about our decisions, we stood our ground while also trying to be respectful. We know that her starting point is to hope that we can live a better life, which makes us cherish the opportunity to spend time with her even more.
In the days that followed, we continued to try to manage our lives and try to balance our relationship with our mother-in-law. While there are challenges at times, we believe that through patience and communication, we are able to find a balance in the family that is satisfying for all.
After going through a series of challenges and trials, my husband and I finally found a balance with our mother-in-law. We learned how to stand our ground while respecting her, and gradually gained her understanding through patient communication. Although the process is not easy, we firmly believe that as long as we remain steadfast, we can create a harmonious and happy family.
One night, while our family was sitting in the living room chatting, my mother-in-law suddenly said, "Xiaoyu, you young people must know how to cherish family relationships, so that you can make life better." ”
I smiled and responded, "Mom, my husband and I have been working hard to run our lives. Although there may be some difficulties, we believe that through communication and understanding, we can solve problems. ”
The husband also nodded in agreement: "Yes, Mom, we will cherish the opportunity to get along with you and make the family relationship more harmonious." ”
When my mother-in-law heard our answer, she smiled with satisfaction: "I'm relieved that you can think so." Family harmony is the most important thing, and we should care more for each other. ”
In the following days, we continued to strengthen communication with our mother-in-law. In the process, we found ourselves learning not only how to get along with her, but also how to better deal with various problems in the family. We have gradually become a united family, supporting each other and facing life's challenges together.
Over time, our business and investments have become successful. This makes our lives more stable and provides a solid foundation for future family planning. Seeing our efforts and results, my mother-in-law began to recognize our way of life and gradually reduced her interference with us.
We finally felt the power of family harmony. This power makes our lives more fulfilling and makes us cherish our relationships with each other more. Although there are sometimes small challenges, we believe that through communication and understanding, we can overcome all difficulties.
In the days to come, my husband and I will continue to work hard to run our lives while maintaining a good relationship with my mother-in-law. We will create a happy family in our own way. By working together, we believe that the future will be even better.