Those who can heal in life are those who can heal themselves

Author | Insight Annabésu

Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Yan Jiao

South of the Huai River in the Qinling Mountains, there is a plant, masson pine.

Normally, the bark of the masson pine is reddish brown and the branches are smooth, and when the logger cuts off the branches of the masson pine, it will be found that an oily sap will soon flow from the wound.

It turns out that masson pine after injury secretes pine to wrap the wound to prevent the invasion of germs and promote rapid wound repair.

Adults should also have the same "self-healing power" as masson pine.

Endure in silence, slowly heal, walk through the reef of life, and one day you can see the beautiful scenery.

I've seen a story like this.

In the desert, the donkey meets the camel that crosses the desert.

The donkey asked the camel, "How did you get through the desert?" ”

The camel said, "Keep walking." ”

The donkey asked again, "What else?" ”

The camel still replied, "Keep walking." ”

With that, the camel lifted its bloodied feet and continued toward the depths of the desert.

Along the way, the camel is not uninjured, but the wound will heal, and it will still have to rush to its own far away.

Each of us will suffer more or less from the blows of life in our lifetime.

It's just that some people carry scars all their lives, while some people can bravely face the past and let the scars blossom into beautiful flowers.

Facebook CHIEF OPERATING Officer Sheryl Sandberg has been called "the world's most influential woman." ”

Shiny and shiny titles, considerate husbands, and harmonious families made her once think of herself as the darling of heaven.

However, at the age of 40, the unexpected death of her husband violently tore her perfect life apart.

For a long time, she was trapped in pain and memories, and when she thought about the details of her relationship with her husband, she was in pain and tears.

At one point, she felt that her husband was gone forever, that the children would not have a happy childhood, and that she would not be happy anymore.

In her most desperate moments, her friend Adam Grant, a well-known psychologist at the Wharton School, told her:

"Cheryl, we can take a certain approach to recovering from the misfortunes and disasters of fragmentation step by step."

With Grant's help, Cheryl actively undergoes psychotherapy, selflessly helping people who are equally trapped, and slowly, she regains the courage to live.

After gradually coming out of the disaster, she met a new love affair, published a book, and saw the light of life again.

I like a quote:

"The days are not always staring at sad things, but stepping out of the morning sun with their heads held high."

You have to learn to forget the misfortunes of the past, because you are accustomed to sad eyes and cannot see beautiful landscapes.

You can look back, but be sure to move forward.

Leave thousands of troubles behind, after the thunder, there is a clear sky.

There was a Q&A on Zhihu: "What are the moments when you feel like you can't get by?" ”

One respondent shared his experience.

My father was seriously ill and underwent surgery, and he almost spent all the family's savings.

After that, the family's business lost money to the sky, and it owed hundreds of thousands of debts.

During that time, he had to worry about the daily expenses of the family and deal with the incessant debt collection calls.

A man in his thirties, almost overnight, turned white, and for a time he borrowed wine to dispel his sorrows and was drunk as mud.

Until one time, he heard his daughter whisper to her mother, "Is Daddy dying, what should we do when he dies?" ”

The child innocently asked questions, as if he was drunk on the head, so he struggled to get up and bravely face life.

During that time, he worked as a construction worker, set up street stalls, and worked as a day-end leaflet.

So busy day after day, within a few years, he even paid off the arrears, and his father's health also improved greatly.

The life of the dark day finally gave him a glimmer of light.

Gorky once wrote in "Childhood": "Life is a beautiful lace, but sitting next to it is an old woman." ”

In life, less is wishful thinking and happiness, more is hard work and tribulations.

Adversity is not pessimistic and sinking, but people who heal themselves silently gradually become strong people in life.

Chen Xiangmei, the first Chinese woman to enter the White House, although she was born in Xiangmendi, her parents preferred sons to daughters when she was a child, and she did not get much love.

When her mother died in her youth and her husband died in middle age, in just half a lifetime, she tasted the pain of the world.

However, she did not have time to grieve, but instead put down her body and took her sisters to make a living and support a family.

She did not sink, but adjusted her state in time, entering the institute to do academic work while actively participating in the business world.

With this tenacity, years passed and she eventually became the first vice president of a major U.S. airline.

There is a line in Gintama that reads:

"There will be no night that can't go by, there won't be a stop to rain, as long as there is the sun in our hearts, we can live without confusion."

What best reflects the grandeur of life is not the smooth sailing, but the tenacity in the face of adversity.

When the wind comes, it flutters with the wind and does not bend the will of the heart; when the rain comes, it should be a baptism of the soul, waiting for the opportunity to be reborn in nirvana.

In the book "Anti-Fragility", two types of people are mentioned:

One is "Damocles", who has a sword hanging from his head and a horse's mane.

Such people are difficult to resist any risk, and the sword may fall at any time, killing Damocles.

The second type of person, the Hydra, will grow two new heads for each head cut off, which is more powerful than the original.

Life is uncertain, whether to stand still or be reborn in adversity when encountering difficulties, all in our own choices.

After all, the weak will only continue to sell miserably, and the strong will habitually heal themselves.

1. Calm down and slowly get things done.

CCTV celebrity Bai Yansong, at the age of 32, suffered a low point in his life.

The ratings of the program have been repeatedly declining, and the negative public opinion is entangled, and he was once very wandering, and he could not find the meaning of persevering.

So he proposed to the leader to suspend him for one year and adjust his body and mind.

That year, he lived a slow-paced life, reading daily, raising flowers, cooking, and cultivating himself in his daily life.

Reading enriches his brain, lives, and gives him the power to heal.

When he came back a year later, he and the team created many programs close to life, which were deeply loved by the people.

Kafka once said that if you want to get something, as long as you are calm and realistic, you can easily and unconsciously achieve the goal.

The more chaotic the soldiers, the more we must calm our hearts.

When the hazy days gradually pass, the gentle wind will blow the earth again, bringing vigorous vitality.

2. Be able to carry things and see suffering as a practice.

After reading many celebrity biographies, I found that one of the essential qualities of successful people is the ability to carry things.

Luo Yonghao is known as the "industry lamp", doing a line of collapse, owing huge debts, but he never flinched, the more frustrated and courageous.

Yu Minhong has experienced several desperate situations, but he can still bottom out, and after the education and training industry has suffered a blow, he has switched to live broadcasting and broken out of another world.

Writer Uncle Ha said:

"Difficulty is a coward, and when you actually pull out your sword and fight hard, it will run away long ago."

In this world, many things are conserved.

If you want to get, you must pay something, and if you want to go further than others, you must be able to carry things better than others.

I like this sentence:

"You and I are mortal, without goldfinger, it is impossible to turn a stone into gold in a smooth life, but life will eventually force you to heal yourself, force you to move forward, and force you to be fearless." 」

The greatest thing about being born as a human being is not what to conquer, but to bear.

Life is a process of constantly overcoming difficulties and transcending your own limitations, carrying it on, surviving it, and life will allow you to be deep and vast.

Click "Looking" and may you move forward in your ordinary life.

Author | Insight Annabésu

Typography | Zheng to the north